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For me, to be able to write usually are in those moments that I can’t prevent and there is nothing that I could do but write… It is swinging moods, ups and downs, questions and the search for those anwers in my heart. .. And … thats life and it offers those times whether you like it or not. But then, there are moments… breaths in life, from life … that serenity surrounds you. There is nothing but peace and space within you, lightness takes you ower and the words start flowing from you… Without thought they just find life, and those times… I am ultimetly grateful. Knowing that u posses love is something but making it tangible so peope can touch and feel is priceless….so grateful that i am me!
  • Mirror

    Mirror

    I love eye gazing, looking into the eyes of an other. Really looking deep inside! This kind of eye gazing, we usually choose to do with the people we love, of which we are deeply connected with and love. Such love that we feel the pull towards each other. There is an ivisible string that ties those souls. That string is connected to our bodies through our eyes. Yeah, I know, over the years we start to take the other for granted and choose not to look so closely with so much wonder. In the end, sometimes, the string that ties these souls brakes down. This may result out of neglect or out of comfort. But, may be sometimes, we can choose to look into the eyes of the other with such sincerity that we might preserve that tie… I believe it is possible! I believe, those are the relationships that do not need time or space to be labeled as love. This is pure love and you are connecting to the source itself. Because you each embody that source within your cores. Patiently waiting to be explored. And hence, it is essential to connect with yourself, really dive in to self to find out what that source is, touch it, feel it and finally embody it. That is the ultimate purpose of life… To remember that you are much more than you perceive, its big and your are beyond amazing. And when you fall in love, you fall in love with that higher being. That is the true binding energy there. 

    And today, I have suddenly found myself looking into the mirror and really looking into my eyes for the first time. Generally, we gaze at our image on the mirror. Just look at the parts of our facial expression but not really stare into our own eyes. 

    And today, I did! To my wonder, I found it amazing, interestingly beautiful, so deep that it made me wonder. Wow! Is it me looking back at me, is this really what I am made up of? There is something in there that is still me, but there is something much more than that. There is an other being much bigger than I believed that I am… Something broader, something that knows, something wise, something pure… If this is in me, then it should be a part of me. And if it is a part of me, then I must be made up of that amazing thing staring back at me. Wow! 

    Could I be more than what I percieve as me? Is this the real potential in me, residing within me? But, then why am I not living that already? What is holding me back from living this reality? Its me! My limited perception of the self. 

    How little we know about our selves actually. We usually choose to place our attention on the others, unaware of what an amazing reality we embody inside. There are so many, who comes into this world and leaves it without this notion of how miraculous, how amazing, how perfect they are. And if you are lucky, you wake up into this reality someday. Life confirms its truth from all angles and you just accept it in the end. That what actually you are… 
    What an amazing awareness this experience brought to me tonight. Somehow a confirmation of what I already knew! And that felt like home. 

    Life is a journey back home, designed to lead our way back to where we belong, to this realization of what we actually are. 
    And, meanwhile I was lost within these thoughts, emotions, a movie came into my mind. “IOrigins”! Please if you have time, watch it tonight and dive into an alternative reality, a possibility of which I believe in. And lets wake up together. This is why I am writing these blogs at the end, to be able to touch, to shift the awareness if possible. This is the purpose of my life… If I can touch one soul that day, my life serves its meaning. 

  • Next step

    Next step

    The other day we were debating…

    I don’t know if you are one of those lucky ones who are awakening, but lately, there has been an energy shift in the universe. Somehow the frequency of the creation has shifted and there has been many whose awareness has widened, became bigger, more comprehensive. Although we live in this world, our reality, our perception of reality has shifted. And within this reality, everything is more brighter, more vivid, more clear. We have started to see the beauty in everything, perceiving the system way broader than we used to understand.

    These days, I don’t even have to escape or go anywhere to breathe… My life in this town is so colorful, so rich, so lively, so much more feeding than it has ever been. I am more awake I presume. I see beauty all the time, in all the things I do, places I see, food I eat, music I listen to, people I meet., conversations I have. Even I see more beauty and creativity in me. I feel love all the time.

    I presume that is the whole purpose of this creation, of this reality we live in; to feel love, to be in love. To see the beauty in everything we encounter whatever that may be.

    And if you have reached to the slightest level of this consciousness, this perception… You know what I am talking about.

    Now then, possibly you know that phenomenon about reality; it changes! It changes according to how we perceive life, live life, express ourselves in life…. 

    Then, for a single moment, imagine this. Before you came into this new understanding, you had no idea that even this was possible. You had no idea that life could be this creative, this light, this fun, this beautiful, this fullfilling…

    Now… think again! Soon there will be an other opening, an other awakening and our reality will shift again, expand once agin, we will connect from a deeper frequency. My God! Can you even begin to imagine how amazing, how capturing that would be!

    I think, that is an idea, a reality worth living for, worth facing the so called challenges in life, worth building and creating a future we want to live in, that we believe in… Because, man! Life is exceptionally amazing! 

  • Picture

    We all have a picture in our souls… A frame of life that our soul resonates with, yearns for, believes in. When we clearly see that picture, we see the true potential of what our lives could be. The life that we want to live! 
    Its so alive, so fullfilling and so true that we feel we can almost touch it, tangibly touch it. And if we have the guts, the strength… we might then choose to go for that dream… To make it our reality. The funny thing is that, it doesnt even matter if we can manifest it in our lives or not, its what life offers us on the way that builds up the journey.
    But, if you ask me… I say, it is DOABLE! If we have the courage to change the stones in our life, shift our perception…. May be someday, we can even see ourselves within that picture, surrounded by those loving eyes having a feast on a long table under the trees, may be we can be surrounded by laugther and music and dance and celebration of life itself… May be, just may be…

  • Miracles

    Miracle… That is actually what life really is here to offer! However, we sometimes, voluntarily or involuntarily, choose to look the other way, blinded by our desires and our impression of what life should be. But oh life, it is miraculously consistent to challenge us, subtly elevating us until, hopefully, we are ready to take that leap of faith.

    Once we realize that we are a miracle ourselves and let that inner being surface among all odds, dive deep into our beings and have the courage to face that “being” purely stripped from all those not so positive quotations of the self, and hence in return communicate from that spot that is untouched and pure in every essence… Then,miracles start to manifest in our lives with no effort at all.

    There is no right time, there is no right action… there is just now and being genuinely true to our own existence.

    If we hear it, truly hear it… and trust that song of good hope… A song that is raising from our core, whispering a possibility of an other reality… We merely have to have the trust to reach out our hand and have the courage to speak from that reality… And then? Then… we might find out that all those so called barriers holding us stagnant in life were just an illusion…

    I am not going to say “think out of the box” but rather “be”out of the box”! There is a bigger picture, a bigger reality beyond those conventional norms and lifestyles we might have chosen to give in at one point in time, just to fit in, to be liked, to be accepted.

    Do not fit in! There is nothing to fit in… 

    Be you, be true, be open and live! Start your life today… Close your eyes. There is a picture, a picture that is bigger than you that might seem impossible to manifest… Now… Open your eyes… Really open them! And tell me, what is keeping you from being THAT you already are… And now… Shift your reality into that one… Work on yourself, find your tools that serves you, carve time and space to grow personally, to learn, to expand … And then, may be, just may be… someday you realize that are on your way… Be genuine, be you, be true… And let the journey shape your path, whatever that may be.

    Me? Today… particularly today… I believe in miracles and I believe…. No, scratch that… I FEEL that I am a miracle! 

  • Judgements

    Judgements

    The other a day, a younger friend of mine has asked me to comment on a blog of hers that was going to be published in one of the magazines. The more I read into her blog, the more I found myself, a younger version of myself materialize in front of me.

    I guess when you are younger, everything seems clear, you are so opinionated about your perception of the things that you perceive everything either black or white…. But life, oh this amazing system called life…  it teaches you that when colors are mixed the canvas presents surprises… Life presents you these amazing shades of gray. When you mature a little in life, the sharp corners of your mind, of your judgements start being shaved, the corners start to soften…. You become more inclusive, more understanding, more accepting and respecting the situation or the person in front of you.

    I used to judge those yoga teachers who were in the path but not applying all the requirements this knowledge recommended. But, with time, a friend not wanting a child becomes a heroine in your eyes for choosing herself among other things, a yoga teacher drinking wine becomes a human, of which he/she actually already is.  You start seeing the beauty in this reality. Not what you wish for or expect from life, but whatever it presents to you with all the shades in between.

    And you start shaving those sharp judgements you have towards yourself too eventually. Those opinions you have about what you should be, how you should be living your life, what you should be believing in life…  all those you find to be true and a “must” in your life starts to shift and change. One day you realize that you are not that person anymore, you are much bigger, more beautiful than you have ever imagined you would be.

    I think that is the best part of growing “up” let’s say (because let’s get real, I am never going to “grow old”), if you are lucky enough, and you do not perceive all those experiences from a bitter angle but somehow with appreciation, life turns out to be this amazing colorful canvas where you get to be “you” and the rest…. Oh well… let the rest unfold itself whenever it wants to… You will be safe and sound because you have found the most precious jewel in life… you!

  • Just “be”

    Just “be”

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    Sadece “Ol”

    Bugün sabah sporum için havuzda yüzerken, ardından vereceğim yoga dersimdeki öğretiyi düşünürken buldum kendimi. Ya, evet, bu sıralar beynimi susturmakta biraz zorlanıyorum, bende bıraktım aksın… izliyorum. İşte, bu sabahta yüzerken yoga dersimi düşünmekteydim, bu sıralar hayatımda yaşamakta olduklarımdan hangisi derste öğretici olabilecek nitelikteydi…ve birden şu ikilem aklıma geldi; ol’mak ve olmaya çalışmak kavramları arasındaki fark.

    Hepimiz, her gün, elimizden gelenin en iyisini olmaya, ortaya koymaya çalışıyoruz. En iyi vatandaş, en iyi ebevyn, en iyi evlat, en iyi eş, en iyi arkadaş, en iyi birey, en iyi varlık… Elimizden gelenin en iyisi… Durmaksızın toplumun bize yüklediği değer yargıları kapsamında, inandırıldığımız alışagelmiş yaşam normları çerçevesinde en iyisini olmaya, ortaya koymaya çalışıyoruz. Ve bir şekilde, hayat denilen bu oyunun içinde, kendimize yer edinmeye, uyum sağlaya çalışıyoruz. Tüm bunlardan ne kadar daha büyük bir varlık olduğumuzu unutarak, aslen bildiğimizi unutarak , ol’maya çalıştığımız varlığın aslında zaten ol’duğumuzu unutarak yaşamaya çalışıyoruz. Ve, aslında, bu gerçeğin azıcık bile farkına varmaya başladığımızda, ol’mak dışında bir şık kalmıyor karşımızda. Zaten ol’duğumuz varlık olmak dışında; saf, sevgi dolu, bağlantı içinde ve özgür bir varlık ol’mak dışında bir opsiyon kalmıyor geriye…

    Ol’abilmek için hayat denilen bu yolcuğu yaşamak gerekiyor aslında. Asıl ikilem de burada önümüze çıkıyor. Ol’abilmek için hayatın bize savurmakta olduğu tüm zorluklardan geçmemiz gerekiyor. Onları yargılamadan, öğrenerek ve büyüyüyerek geçmek gerekiyor. İçimizde sertleşip kendimizi yaşama kapatmadan, zincirleri kırıp genişleyerek geçmek gerekiyor. Buna azıcık bile olsun ulaşabilirsek, ufacık bile olsun içselleştirebilirsek, işte o zaman içimiz yumuşamaya başlıyor. Hayatın getirdiği herşeye anlayış ve minnet ile yaklaşmaya başlıyabiliyor insan. Ah, işte bence en zoru da bu… Kırılmış bir kalbi bir hayatın bir lütufuymuş gibi değiştirebilmek, yaşanan bir hastalığı yaşamı daha geniş pencereden algılayabilmeye sebep olduğu için sevebilmek, kendine dönüp bakıp, herşeyinle olduğun gibi kendini sevebilmek… Hayatın bize sunduğu bu zorlukları birer ders, nimet olarak algılayıp minnet duyabilmek.

    İşte belki de bu nokta da farkına varmak … “ol”mak dışında başka bir opsiyonun olmadığını fark edebilmek. Daha fazla ol’maya çalışamazsın artık. Çalışmak eski oyunların, eski şemaların, eski ilişkilerin, eski sen’in bir gerçeğiydi.. Şimdi sadece olduğun gibi yaşamak ve ol’mak zamandır. Benliğinin hafifliğinde kendin olarak hayatta akma zamanıdır.

    Yoga benim için bu yoldaki öğreticim oldu her zaman. Bir saatlik yoga dersinde bile, sadece o saat zarfında ol’abilmem için alan tanıdı bana daima. Anda kalıp bu bedenin içinde gerçete olanı izlemem için bir alan tanıdı. Düşüncelere kapılıp gitmeden onları izleyebilmem, ve zaman zaman da başka şeylere dönüştüğüne tanık olabilmem için alan tandı.

    Sadece “ol”, içine dön ve bak… ne fısıldıyor özün sana. Ve bırak bütün omalıyım, yapmalıyım gibi ön yargıların, olmaya çalışma çabaların terk etsin gitsin… sadece “ol”. İşte bence gerçek özgürlük o noktada başlıyor!

    English version….

    Just “be”

    Today, as I was swimming, I was thinking… Yeah… These days my mind is running like crazy and during this time, I was thinking, once again…. About what my teaching at my yoga class that day could be, what is it that I am going through that is solid enough to teach… And suddenly this duality came into my mind… Trying and being!

    We all try our best everyday. Try to be a sensible being, a citizen, a parent, a child, a partner, a friend, a person… We constantly try to be that the society imposed upon us and we ended up believing to be the norms of conventional living… And we try to fit in, we try to be happy in this little game called “life”… Forgetting that we are much bigger than all this, that we already know… That we are already that we are trying to “be”… And once you know… There is no option left but to be “be”! Be that you already are, which is pure and connected and loving and free….

    To “be” one has to travel a journey called life… That is the real dillema I think… To “be” we have to go through all those challenges life throws on us, not judge them but learn and grow from them… Not to become stiff and closed but to break those chains and expand. And once you somehow achieve that, even a glimpse of that… Once you soften inside, you start accepting whatever is thrown in your way with gratitude and understanding. Ah, this indeed is the hardest part I presume… To shift a broken heart into a blessing, to love a sickness for showing you a bigger picture in life, to see and love yourself with all that you are… Such hard challenges in life becoming a teaching, a blessing, something to be grateful for.

    Then, may be, you realize… There is nothing more left than to “be”. You can not try anymore… Try was the name of the old game, old patterns, old relationships, old you… Now its time to merely “be” as you are…. Be light, be you and just flow through life…

    And yoga has been that teacher, that source for me to “be” at least for that single one hour. Just be present and observe that is going on in this body. Not be swept away by those thoughts but become an observer of those thoughts coming and going and sometimes… Sometimes shifting into something else…

    Just “be” and look inside, hear what that little being whispering into your heart… And then let it all go, all those should’s and must’s… and “be” …. I believe then we could totaly be free…

  • Eyes 

    Eyes 

    I want to be surrounded with people of whom every time they look into my eyes, I see a spark in them. Somehow wondrous and at awe, a little naughty and mischievous, full of life. A spark that gives promises that you both are vibrating in the same frequency… That you both are looking at life with almost the same perception.

    A spark that carries the intention of something more than you each individually possess and it is more real than any reality that was imposed upon you. A spark that is so confident and at ease that they openly look into your eyes, there are no agendas, no fear, nothing to hide… They just up front stare deep into your soul…

    Since art of living’s eye gazing exercise, it always impresses me in what I can see and perceive in the eyes of the other. A door opens to their soul. I almost loose the line where the other one ends and I start to begin. Nowhere to hide and no need to hide. You are seen and accepted and loved and understood. You are perfect as you already are!

    And then, you would walk through everything with that song of good hope! That song will be your inner voice and your soul will be pulling you into a direction that you can not resist, which is so soft and so rich, and you would have no other option to follow it. There will be no options left in your life, no this way or another… Just one path left to follow which is your ultimate truth, the path of your soul. Not of your mind or your heart… The words seize to exist and you just simply have to surrender to come what may.

    Close your eyes and follow your soul where all the questions dissolve into wonder and hope… You will find your answers there.

  • Nefes almanın dayanılmaz hafifliği

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    Garip bir hafiflik hissediyorum bu sıralar… belki de ilkbahar geldiği içindir diycem ama o konuda da çok sinirliyim aslında, pek sevinemiyorum. Mart ayında gelmiş olan ilkbahara sevinemiyorum işte…. Küresel ısınmanın böylesine büyük bir gerçek olarak hayatımızın içinde fiziksel olarak yer alıyor olması bahar sevincime gölge düşürüyor… Ama buna rağmen sonsuz bir hafiflik hissediyorum, sanki bedenimin dışına çıktım da büyük resme tepeden bakıyormuşum gibi… mutlu, ruhumu gıdıklayan müzikler dinlemek istiyorum… ruhumla uyanık bir şekilde hayatı kucaklamak istiyorum.

    Bütün hayatım film şeridi gibi gözümün önünden geçiyor adeta ve tüm yaşananlar, tanıştığım insanlar büyük bir yap-boz’un parçaları gibi yerlerini buluyorlar. Yukarıdan hayatıma baktığımda sonsuz bir huzur, mutluluk kaplıyor içimi… öylesine güzel insalarla tanışmışım ve onları gerçekten görebiliyorum ki şimdi sanki tüm bu parçaları birleştirme zamanı gelmiş gibi hissediyorum… hepsinin birbiri ile tanışmasını ve benim onları sevdiğim kadar birbirlerini sevmelerini istiyorum… hani o hayal edilen tek sevgi, tek dünya var ya…. Ben onu kendi küçük dünyamda gerçekleştirmek istiyorum.

    Beni bilenler bilir, ben topluluk içinde yaşamayı arzu eden biriyim… ashram’a ilk adım attığım andan beri bu toplu halde yaşamın ruhuma ne kadar iyi geldiğini hissediyorum. Sevdiğim insalarla beni koy bir kasabaya, altıma bir bisiklet ver, etrafımız tarlalarla çevrili olsun, her güne içimizde yaşam sevinci ve heyecanı ile uyanalım, birbirimizden öğrenelim, gelişelim, genişletelim sınırlarımızı…. Yıllardır bunun hayalini kuruyorum ruhumda… tüm bunları düşünürken, aklıma Field of Dreams’den bir replik geldi “If you build it they will come” “sen inşa edersen onlar gelir”. Hayatta sadece hayallerinle oturup kendi başına kalırsan bunlar hayal olmak dışında bir aşama kaydetemez ama eğer kendini geliştirirsen, önünde açılan kapılardan inançla ve adeta bir çocuk heyecanı ile geçersen, önüne çıkan insanlara yargısız bir sevgiyle bakıp, gerçekten dinlersen…. İşte, bir bakmışsın ki hayallerin hayal olmaktan çıkmış, ufak adımlara kalmış gerisi… ve hissediyorum, çok yaklaştım…

    Bana yüklenen hayatı değil, benim kendimi olduğum gibi hissettiğim, kendimin yarattığı yaşamı yaşamaya başladım… Bana yüklenmiş olan kalıplardan sıyrılıyorum gibi geliyor, minik minik uyanıyorum sanki… gördüğüm resmi benimle gören ve inanan insanlar tarafından çepeçevre sarılmaya başladım adeta… bana deliyişim gibi bakanların bakış açısı bile değişmeye başladı… bakan gözlerde inanç görüyorum, sevgi görüyorum, anlayış görüyorum… içimden bir ses durma, devam et diyor… dengeni değiştir. Evet bir ayağım her zaman dünyada yere basacak, daha rasyonel olacak, beyninin mantıklı tarafı ile bakmaya, anlamaya, tartmaya çalışacak… ama öbür ayağımı da sıkı sıkı ruhani dünyanın içinde tutmaya devam edicem, o benim ışığım ve gücüm olacak, o benim asıl yolculuğum olacak.

    Denge… tüm hayat bu denge üzerine kurulu, karanlık olmasa aydınlığın anlamı olmazdı, bunu biliyor, saygı duyuyor ve kabul ediyorum… ancak; karanlığın içinde kaybolmadığım, aydınlığı içimde taşıdığımın farkında olduğum bir hayat kurmaya başladım… aradaki tek fark bu. İşte o noktada herkesin, herşeyin içindeki güzeli ve aydınlık olanı görmeye başlayabiliyor insan.

    Ben inşa etmeye başladım kısacası ve önümdeki kapıların ağzına kadar açık olduğunu fark ediyorum sadece… Belki de ortada kapı bile olmadığının farkındalığı içimdeki hafifliğin sebebi… sınırları koyanın aslında beynim olduğunun farkındalığı… yaşamın vermek için hazır olduğunun farkındalığı…. Kısaca… nefes alıyor olmanın dayanılmaz hafifliği diyelim bence, hayatın içinde nefes alıyor olabilmenin dayanılmaz hafifliği…

    https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=JZONDSqNxnI

    Unbearable lightness of being

    I feel this unexplainable lightness lately… One might say it’s the result of the spring that is taking over the world but actually, I am really angry and upset about that, I can’t feel that happy for the spring. (of which by the way, in my opinion, is by far the most amazing season of all!!!). Living this spring weather in March and feeling the physical presence of global warming in our everyday life doesn’t quite make me happy. But, in spite of this, I still feel this enormous lightness in my being, as if I have elevated from my body and I am gazing down at the big picture from above. I want to listen to happy, uplifting songs that tickles my soul. I want to give life a big hug with my awakening soul.

    My whole life passes over my eyes and all those that has been lived finds a meaning, all those people that I have accumulated are finding their places in this big jigsaw puzzle called life. When I gaze down from above, I find myself in a vast sea of peacefulness and happiness… Aware that I have met such amazing souls in this world and that I have truly seen them. And now, it is time to put all those pieces together…I want them all to meet each other and love each other as much as I love them (ok, I know that this is a long stretch, but a wish is a wish, and this is mine:)) You know that “one love, one world” concept that we all dream about, I want it to manifest in my personal small world at least.

    The ones who closely knows me, knows that, I love communities. Since the moment I stepped my foot into the ashram, I knew how marvelous I felt in a commune lifestyle. Leave me in a small village with close minded people that I love, give me a bicycle, surround me by farmlands… And let’s wake up every day with joy and excitement of that new day, lets learn from each other, evolve and expand our limits together. I have been dreaming of this alternative reality for years now. And as I was contemplating on all these the other day, a phrase from the movie Field of Dreams popped into my mind “if you build it, they will come.” If you surround yourself with your dreams and do not take any action, those most probably will not go an inch further than merely being your dreams.

    But, if you invest in yourself, walk through those doors with belief and a child’s excitement within you, if you look at all the others with an unjudgemental love and listen to them… Then one day you may realize that those dreams are not dreams anymore, you just have to take those few last steps and eventually, can touch them… And I feel it in my bones, I am very close, its time…

    I have slowly started to move away from the life that was imposed upon me and manifest my own reality in which I am simply “me”. As if I am slowly stripping down from all those patterns and burdens of many lifetimes and waking up from a long sleep… I am suddenly aware that I am surrounded with those who see and believe the same vision that I see… All those who have been perceiving me as a little out of the ordinary and honestly, a little crazy, their perception has been shifting… I have suddenly started to see belief, love and understanding in their gazes. And, I feel my soul calling out to me “don’t stop, keep on your path” … Change your equilibrium.

    Yes, I am going to keep my one foot on the ground to be a little rational, to perceive and weigh life from the logical side… But I am going to keep on grounding my other foot deeply rooted on the spiritual side; that will be my light and my strength… This will be my ultimate journey.

    Balance… This whole creation is based on balance. If there was no darkness, light would have found no meaning. While I know, respect and accept this duality of life, I have slowly started to manifest a life in which I do not lose my way in the darkness with the awareness that I carry the light that I need within me already. That is the simple difference. And in light of this reality, I can see the beauty and the radiance in others.

    In a nutshell… as I have started to build, I am becoming more aware that the doors in front of me are wide open… May be its the awareness of the fact that; there are no doors, that creates this lightness within me… Awareness that it is my mind that is implementing those limitations in my life, and that LIFE is more than ready to GIVE. We might shortly say… It’s the unbearable lightness of breathing, breathing within life that uplifts me so these days…

    https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=JZONDSqNxnI

  • Red pill or blue pill

    Red pill or blue pill

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    Ben herkese güzel sözler söylemeyi çok seviyorum.

    Karşımdakine bakınca, onun hakkında gördüğüm güzellikleri, onun karakterinde beğendiğim sadece 1 olgu dahi olsa (ki itiraf edelim, en sevimsiz tabir ettiğimiz kişide dahi beğendiğimiz bir olgu vardır elbet, sadece 1 tanecik bile olsa), işte o beğenmekte olduğum olguyu kendisine söyleyerek onu gördüğümü, etrafına kaplamış olduğu o kabuğa rağmen, gerçek O’nu gördüğümü ifade edecek şekilde kelimelere dökmeyi seviyorum hislerimi. Tüm saygım ve içtenliğimle, kabul ve takdirimle karşımdakine iletmeyi seçiyorum.

    Çoğumuz karşımızdaki insandaki o güzel yanlarını görebilsek dahi, belki anlayamadığımız için, ya da kendi inançlarımızla örtüşmediği için, ve belki de sadece egomuz yüzünden söyleyemediğimiz için… ya da sadece karşımızdakinin hatalarını görüp onları tamir etmeye odaklandırılmış olduğumuz için, bunun gerçek olduğuna ikna edildiğimiz için… karşımızdakinde göremediğimiz, görebilsek bile söyleyemediğiz o güzel kelimelerden bahsediyorum.

    Evet… sana diyorum… Insanız elbet,zaman zaman yenik düşebiliyor, daha yargılayıcı olabiliyoruz.

    Bu yaşıma kadar hayatın bana öğrettiği tek bir gerçek var kanımca ve bende bu gerçeği satmaya adadım sanırım kendimi. Gerçekten adadım; tüm benliğimle bu açıdan bakmak üzere söz verdim… Ve eğittim kendimi zamanla…

    Bu bir alışkanlık çalışması; önünde iki seçenek var; bu son derece açık ve basit. (Matrix’deki mavi ve kırmızı haplar  kadar basit.): Her önüne çıkan olayda, kişide ya iyiliği ve güzel olanı görmeyi tercih edebilirsin, yada daha mükkemmeliyetçi ve yargılayıcı tarafınla bakarak, muhtelif eksiklikleri görmeye odaklanabilirsin.

    Ama unutma; biz o eksikleri görüp onları geliştirmeye gelmiş ÜSTÜN varlıklarız. Biz zaten mükemmeliz.

    İşte tüm bu gerçeğin ışığında karşındakinin gözlerinin içine bakabilir, gerçekten dinlersen, onu olduğu varlık çerçevesinde kabul ederek gerçekten görmeye başlayabilir, bunu başarabilirsen… ona söyleyecek binlerce güzel kelime bulabilirsin. Ve akabinde, sözlerinle karşındakini bir adım daha ileri taşıyabilirsin, onu mutlu edebilir, onu yüceltebilirsin… Ve işte bu insanlığın, bu beklentisiz iyiliğin, bir gün, bir şekilde sana geri döner… Evrenin büyüsüdür bu! Herşey devinim halindedir.

    Peki… sen hangi hapı seçmeyi tercih ediyorsun? Hayat denen bu yolcuğu güzelleştirip güzelleştirmek sana kalmış… Bugün yaptığın her seçimle içinde bildiğin, hissettiğin bu gerçeği hayata geçirebilme, sistemi değiştirebilme gücüne sahipsin; bir tek SEN kendi hayatını değitirebilirsin, kimse bunun senin için yapamaz… Hadi, seçim sende… Mavi mi, kırmızı mı?
    English version….

    I love to praise the others with my words.

    When I look at the other, I love to verbalize the beauty I see in them. Lets accept it, even with the least likely candidate, there can be one attribute that you might like, you can find if not any but a single attribute that triggers your attention. And, when this happens, I just let the words find life, express that I see in other inspite of that protective shell he/she has built around him/herself. That, I do get to see the real him. With all my sincerity and respect, acceptance and appreciation let the other openly know how they make me feel.

    I choose to verbalize those uplifting words that we can’t utter even though we see the beauty in the other. We choose not to verbalize may be because even though we do get to really see the other, we do not understand them. May be… Because it contradicts with our beliefs or may be we simply are beings led by our egos…. Or, may be, we are just programed to see the downsides, the missing pieces in all those surrounding us and shift our attention to fixing them… which leads to more contradictions in the end.

    Those words we simply do not choose to use may be because we really don’t see the other, or we can see but purposely choose not to praise as a result of the various illusions expressed above.

    Yes, I am referring to you! We are human beings after all, and, we do become weak and fall to judgment from time to time.

    Among all others, there is one single reality that this life has thought me… and I am here to sell you this truth. Literally and naturally, dedicated myself to promote this reality… promised myself to always try to perceive life from this particular angle… And hence, in time, educated myself to take this concious action in every encounter.

    This is a habitual exercise; in every situation, you have two options. This is loud and clear! As simple as the red and blue pills expressed in the movie, the Matrix. In every situation, being, thing that you encounter, you might either choose to see the goodness and the beauty in the other, or, you can approach from your judgmental and perfection side, and can focus to see the various flows and shortfalls in the other.

    But in the meantime, please keep in mind that we are these PERFECT beings here to see those flows in ourselves and improve them… But in the meantime, keeping in mind that, we are always and already absolute and beautiful.

    And… in light of all these, if you can really look into the eyes of the other, really listen and accept them within the boundaries of their existence… if you can truly accomplish this… you can find not only one, but millions of uplifting words to utter to the other. You can carry them one step forwards with your words, you can make them happy and in peace with themselves, you can praise them. And this humanity, this unselfish deed will return to you someday… That is the enchantment of life really… What goes around does come around… Sooner or later.

    Now, which pill do you choose? With your every decision you hold the key to manifest this reality in your life. You have the power to change and alter the system. What you perceive as real world can be changed with your perception… only. You only have the power to change YOUR life… You have a choice… Blue or red pill… Come now, which one do you choose!

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    And this a story worth talking about!

    He is exceptional, so soft, content, gentle, honest and funnily enough funny… Really deep, sincere and naive. His voice so soft, tender, settling, somehow reassuring. You not only feel his emotions, but really touch them… Embody them.

    And she is witty, brave, exotic, sexy and daring. She is soft and beautiful, mature and naive. She is a true woman with so much compassion.

    And they just happen to be. Life offers them each other, unplanned, uncontrollable.
    Their departure holds a promise… “Till then, then.” expresses the surrender and acceptance to come what may.

    And the kiss… That kiss you yearn for even though you secretly keep it locked in your heart… That is so tender and yet so passionate, that carries promises, an endless potential of your desires.

    “Your favorite story, whatever it might be, is written for one reader.”

    The final line, sums up the whole existence of life. “There are many loves, even the greatest ones, but there is just one perfect love.” No matter how it ends, the love never dies. Even the awareness of the reality of that love, the eternity it embodies… brings acceptance of the situation, whatever it may be…

    And you hold on to life, accept it as it is… And suddenly, not knowing what the future holds becomes a promise life offers… A hope!